It's obvious they have preconceived ideas on what a real man is (going so far to risk your fiance health). Strength is setting boundaries, power is enforcing those boundaries. They could have killed him. Some of this is actually really dangerous. These aren't "tests", this is your family being major fucking AHs. this type of toxic masculinity is why men die so much more often from accidents and suicide. They are cruel people who have been bullying your fianc, these things are not pranks. For more information, please see our "AITA for letting my family bully my fiance to a point of endangering his mental and physical health?". They dont like Tim. Your family is horrible. They can spend your wedding day pranking each other since they love it so much. Honestly, I might have broken up with OP after the tire thing. I wouldnt be speaking to them again. Asthma can be fatal, that's not a risk I would want to take. OP's tolerance of her family's antics until the inhaler "challenge" puts her damn near in enabler territory. Saran wrap on the toilet bowl, bucket of water over a door, recorded fart sounds played in a ghostly manner. This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. Be basically disowned his great grandparents and is very mad that my mom still does stuff with them. She has a shitty family and needs to go to therapy to unlearn the unhealthy dynamic she grew up in. This is curious that your siblings are not on your side . And wanted to see if he was "man" enough to go through it without his inhaler, this is so toxic. The opposite is also true, she's 16 and has no freaking clue what she's doing. I thought that's the person doing the work, just wasn't sure where he'd be working; sometimes my English just says bye haha, Mechanic is a good word! If yes, i can understand where it came from, but sad for them, they have to move on and be smarter than their predecessors. Like seriously, do you have any idea what it's like not be able to to breathe? You need to take your fianc and get the hell away from the pack, because theyre already turning on you now that youre stepping out of line and it will only get more vicious. I grew up with a very messed up family. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i am thinking about uninviting my sister from my mothers birthday dinner because she abruptly left me to go to the concert with someone else. They are crimes. NTA OP, Stick to your guns. Obviously Tim went on that camping trip with them for you, he clearly does not like these people. He should get them all charged. Hes likely already seriously considered if youre worth the hassle. I don't know how mild/severe his asthma is. NTA. Fuck that that's why I have AAA. OP grew up with this. The fact that your dad said that he would apologize if he "had to" is disturbing. Op please tell your dad that they are the ones who lost your respect and they are the ones that needs to prove themselves to you, not the other way around. I loved my dad and was happy that he was happy though. These are not pranks. Theyre both so young. NTA - I'd tell Mom she'd better stfu and stop enabling or else she's going to be uninvited too. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? violence isnt just physical aggression against an individual.) NAH But honestly you have to have a talk with her and explain what youre feeling. They refuse to even apologize for trying to kill your fiance. NTA they took the pranks way too far. A lot of the things you describe arent pranks at all. Cut them out of the wedding and your life. The slashing of the tires would probably be my limit for being around them, but he went on a solo camping trip with them after that (solo as in he didnt have anyone on his side to back him up if they pulled the shit they did)?? This mans gonna die. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. We had multiple meetings and conversations to mend our relationship where he'd shed crocodile tears but we'd always end up having a blowout argument where he would say awful things and we wouldn't speak for months. How exactly is he supposed to fix slashed tires himself other than buying new ones and replacing them. NTA. OP and little Timmy should have pranked them back by play acting he had. Either hire security or elope. I suggest you tell them that you understand that they're intimidated by someone with a real education and who idea of fun isn't dumb jock humour but that you move beyond such immature behaviour and they're out of your life altogether until they apologise to TIM and if they ever "prank" him again they out for ever. Let's see how they, in this hypothetical scenario, like the PRANK of NOT BEING ABLE TO BREATHE PROPERLY. Its your responsibility to make sure your family members are NOT abusing your partner under the disguise of tests and pranks. These pranks are just excuses to be pricks. Men don't do this. I hadnt seen a doctor in a decade due to lack of health care and this guy straight up told me he hasnt either even after a heart attack. NTA, this is horrible. Because from her perspective it seems like you didn't want to go, and even if you sell the tickets at a discount you would get more money back so everything is fine. Its not something my doctor (who happens to also have mild asthma of the forget it exists then you get a cold and your inhaler is expired type) and I have put in our shared stories of nearly, but not entirely, outgrown asthma. And it's not about me. Oh he's dead! OP's family isn't awful, they are abusive. Very NTA. And these pranks and challenges are NOT typical men stuff. Also expect your mom might say she isn't going if they don't. And agreed, fiancee must really love OP to put up with this for so long. Good lord. . But while its slightly soothing to me and my core family to know that basically, I cough. Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. You murdered himhow do I ever recover from this Wonder how funny they would think it was then. And there is no come backPretending he died/nearly died isn't funny.really. but potentially killing him is? Sounds like the boys in your family have an issue with being held accountable for their actions. AITA for uninviting my dad from my graduation and telling him I never want to see him again? Damn. Also, his son lived with us for three months and hates my mom and I simply because she didnt enable him like his father does. Your family sounds absolutely horrid, and you're wise not to expose yourself to their bullying. Timmy also needs to stand up for himself. "It's just a joke!". Call them out intellectually or use their fear against them and watch how they retract. Maybe to you. Stop trying to make him love you. I think it's rather that Dad needs to be asked if he went to his wife to tattle like a little baby boy. Who knows what theyre going to pull at the wedding and even after. A part of me wants you to send that guy flowers with a card that says "Sorry for your loss." She lives alone with her cats and it would be days before we found out. I finally gave up and told him that I will not continue to be subjected to his abuse and he's no longer welcome in my life. Your fianc doesnt need to prove anything to any of them. Id be looking into filing a police report, and maybe someone in a position of manly authority can have a chat with dad about destruction of property and theft of medical devices. It's been five years since I realized what was going on, and only one sibling has come to the same conclusion since then. Cancer!" "And he knew you had cancer." "If that was me, the second I left my brother's house, he would've been dead to me. But to placate your family, tell them theres one thing they could do that will make you reconsider: A manly challenge, if you will, where only by their manliness will they be accepted. No no, they do find things wrong with you, to fix it. Only yours should matter. OP needs to go no contact with these Neanderthals if she wants to marry this poor guy. First have the conversation with your fianc if he even wants them there. Also- are they actually sorry for what they did? Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. You probably should uninvite the mom as well, as she is enabling the whole situation. Pranks are harmless fun. Cut them off, OP. Your family already drove that wedge, not Timmy. I was so mad at the timing of that because I couldn't do nearly as much as I wanted to on that trip because of that unexpected expense. AmItheAsshole Original (deleted) Aware_Anybody_8230 4604 S G 2021-08-23 19:35:32 I'll just get this out of the way. I'm surprised he wanted to go on a 3 day trip with them after everything else they've done to him. The family is lucky they haven't called for a restraining order. NTA OP. Yeah that's why I normally use it in any situation where I type sarcasm. OP's family are criminal thugs who are endangering his life. So funny. That's what I said in another comment too. OP found somebody committed to her. Half the stuff they did could land them in jail if he wanted to press charges. Hiding his inhaler and trying to kill/risk his life. NTA. Toxic masculinity is so fucking dangerous to all of us. NTA. NTA. Right? Unless there are dramatic and unlikely changes, Tim is signing up for a lifetime of misery. Those assholes would show up in their hunting gear and make everyone miserable. OP needs to drop the family or drop the fiancee, because you can't have a healthy loving relationship with someone while being complicit in them being abused. Like a mechanic, finds whats wrong then fixes. Depending on other circumstances, I may have even pressed charges. When you cut off toxic people, it makes room for better people in your life. NTA, in my opinion you're getting a pretty good deal, cutting one toxic member of your family out and a few enablers are going with them. If not, they really should be smarter than that. His entire family has disowned me and they're all blocked on my phone after sending me awful messages. NTA they are bullies and dont deserve to be near you or your fianc. And you are most definitely NTA. And they could have hurt him. Imagine what kind of "prank" they would pull at a wedding with a large audience. Theyre not used to anyone standing up to them. They fucked up. This is not pranking, it's abuse. Talk with Tim about it and ask about his genuine opinion. Honestly, Tim must really love and value your relationship to put up with all that. Seriously, people shouldnt mess with other peoples medical stuff regardless of whether its a pair of glasses, a wheelchair or an inhaler. ^ u/Throwawayfamily976, the above comment really hit home. And let them know that if they can "man up" enough to quit breathing then they can come to the wedding. I'd tell your mom that you would be ashamed of your children if they acted like your dad. Your family's version of what a "real man" is, is twisted. Id have slashed every fucking one of their tires. Youre NTA but you will be if you force your future husband to be around them. Often time these kids grow up and explain that they behaved badly to get attention diverted from abuse of other people in the home. Or actually the hill they tried to kill him on. NTA. Hes marrying you. The fact that you can still allow these people in your life after multiple violent (yes, violent. Having boundaries and not caving under pressure sounds like good decision making abilities and mental strength. and it would be lost if theyre banned from the wedding. Yeah, the way they disregard his asthma and brush it off as excuses. as i mentioned, the money isnt really the issue, its more just how she did it. 3d renders. Send them all links for information about consequences of their behaviour regarding his inhaler. What if you had to get somewhere fast or had to get to work? Your family sucks. Stick to your guns, because you're completely right. OP your family sound hideous, this isn't pranks, it's bullying and criminal behaviour. Aita for uninviting my parents to my wedding; quad cortex neural dsp price; the forest fly command; python flush output; salvage car auction virginia; the book of psalms explained pdf; heineken hoodie; steel pipes suppliers in uae. You need to set things straight immediately that he comes first or else this will be the end of your relationship. Pretty soon they will be cutting his brake lines to see if he is a real man and can bail out of his car. Vandalisim at the very least? Id agree theres a clear pattern of disrespect and scary antics here that I wouldve cut off long ago. I grew up in a house where my dad would pester us to the point of crying, then get mad that we were crying because "I'm just messing with you!!" It's not funny, it's messed up. Bringing you the freshest and best posts from r/AmItheAsshole Timestamps:0:00 - AITA for causing my sister to no longer have her college paid for?2:14 - AITA. This is seriously so fucked up. I wonder what they would do if OP was engaged to a big dude with anger issues. I have asthma and reading that gave me chills. Cut them off completely and keep them as far away as possible. So basically your family members thought it'd be funny to see him end up in a life threatening situation. Yeah, I would never ever trust my kids for a single second with a grandparent who verbally harassed me, slashed my tires, and tried to steal medical equipment that kept me from suffocating to death. NTA, defend your poor innocent fianc, and if any of them dispute the right to go your wedding, point out that since they admit slashing his tires and stealing his inhaler you would be well within your rights to press charges against them for vandalism and harassment. That should NEVER be something to joke about! NTA a prank is a Whoopie Cushion not slashing tires. NTA by far. They are too manly to go to the wedding. And talking about seeing your life moving forward how will you feel when they start this pranking with your future kids? What are they going to do to test manliness? ESH except your fianc. Fuck people like this and their asinine 'pranks'. And maybe, just maybe your dad and other family members involved will get some personal growth out of this and grow up to be a proper men. Dont ever invite them. reddit, would i be the asshole if i uninvited her? Get away from your family, theyre even bigger assholes. Came here to say thismy tires are expensive afthis isnt a prank its a crime, Not to mention slashing tires is a straight up crime. NTA. Wow I wonder how manly they would be if your poor partner suffered a major attack and sadly passed. I was sitting down looking at daddy-daughter dance songs when I got the urge to just text and confirm he will be able to make it to my wedding. I went to a wedding where the lady getting married had her birth mom, first stepmom, and second stepmom. Also this is really concerning that you dont see that aspect. It's their property". Look: I know its hard to discover that the way you grew up isnt actually normal or okay, but the way you grew up is not actually normal or okay. Taking someone's enhaler can kill them. THIS! Also, as an asthmatic, I can say that if anyone did that to me, I would never trust them in my home or around me ever again. you're acting like a responsible adult, he's acting like a spoiled child. I think it's great to forgive assholes if they stop, and family unity is important, but if someone is an asshole and will continue to be an asshole and refuses to stop being an asshole, they definitely should be kept as far away as possible. If they agree to the challenge, and complete it, youll consider re-inviting them to the wedding. NTA. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I really hope you make them pay for the tires they slashed. Sorry youre going through this OP. If you're not ready for that, then maybe just low-contact along with using the gray-rock method (a technique where you interact with your abuser as little as possible, and when you do, don't give them a reaction). Ask your dad if he's run to mummy to tattle? Otherwise he should cut all contact with them. Asshole I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. Hiding an inhaler can cause DEATH. NTA - I cant believe these guys play chess. They probably don't realize how fucked up it is. At same time, I'm sorry Op, if I was Tim, I might rethink about marriage to your family, your family is asshole. He sounds pathetic. Probably should have been too. I literally stopped breathing 3 times as an infant/toddler from it. Just stuck a needle in my back and tapped me like a maple tree. I had an cousin die from cancer because he waited for the tumor that was visible to get so large and spread before getting to the doctor. I'd be calling the cops. You should cut them off. They have already stated they do not respect your life partner. NTA- they slashed his tires? Your family for obvious reasons, and you for letting this go on for that long and being spineless enough to not put boundaries earlier. Little Timmy could have pranked them back by dying without his inhaler if he hasn't discovered its loss in time. I'd do anything for her because my brother chose her. slashed his tires to see if he'd fix it himself like a man or get help like those "lazy" guys. Being in that environment sounds toxic as hell. Do they realize that your fiance could have died? What if hed had an asthma attack and died, thats murder not a prank. Recently, he TOLD ME he was taking my car to see his bio son. Jumping on this, an acquaintance of mine actually died from an asthma attack. Words simultaneously have no meaning at all and all of their possible meanings. Im surprised youre the first person to say all this. My fathers cousin among them, even if taken to hospital. NTA WTF???? Exactly that. Im sorry but is your family a bunch of uneducated hicks that actually think this shit is normal? Wow, what the fuck?? Mens mental health is important! Poor Tim. Someone might think you are serious instead of joking. Youve subjected him to a lot and youve let A LOT slide. You don't need your family to think your fiance is "man enough", and their definition itself is horrendous. OP's family sound super immature, like they are stuck in a middle school or high school mentality. Something like if I brake this plate then dad will beat me and not mom Understanding these types of issues helped me see the patterns in my family an step pit of these roles. What a sissy! He needs to man up! They hid his damn inhaler for 3 days. She's not an asshole for being related to shitty people. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. Does anyone have Ventolin to keep them alive until the ambulance gets here? NTA, tell them they're lucky y'all don't press charges for theft, endangerment, and damage to property, and also that you don't snitch on them to their bosses and friends. I agree because it will only get worse and what if they have kids? plus she didnt care about me paying 90 so i dont see why shed let me off the hook now. However, she doesn't like her either. After she hung up I asked my fiance if I made the wrong decision and je said it's my wedding and I get to decide eventually but I knew he said that because he's biased. They have absolutely no right to keep that information from their patients, but it happens. You dont mess with someones health. All they are doing is trying to determine if your fianc holds values like them or not. What are the odds Timmy the Collegiate Asthmatic makes twice as much money as all of the REAL MEN put together Then I am so glad that OP isn't one of the women who "marry their father". Completely agree. You should have given your dad and brother some kind of excuse for why Tim couldnt go camping. I scrolled too far to read this. They could and should be arrested for slashing tires and hiding the inhaler. They are crimes. Right? My guess is the OP and her mother have had this done to them all their life because the dad is most likely an abuser. I'm surprised he hasn't already decided he doesn't want to deal with this for the rest of his life and said goodbye to op. To cut a long story short, I realised quite quickly in my older teen years (17) that my dad manipulated and gaslit me throughout my childhood and my mother was never the villain. Oh then hell no! Theyve shown theyre committed enough to this to endanger another persons life, no one should be doing anything with the expectation theyre going to have a sudden change of heart and develop empathy. Hiding his inhaler on a days camping trip? Your mum is TA as well for essentially supporting their behaviour. Do you guys have kids? I feel so bad for him and am honestly surprised hes still with you. Imagine if he had - oh, is it funny to face a murder charge for hiding an inhaler? NTA. That how they drained mine, too, so maybe I got the wrong term there. Stand up to your fianc. Throughout my life he was forcing me to take sides in wars I should've never been involved in but at 19 I finally refused to take a side. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. NTA for disinviting them stand your ground OP. Does he have to die before you're willing to go no contact? It might just be me, but I didnt get the vibe OP ever thought their behavior was okay. Sounds like a bunch of dumb hicks bullying a city boy. That is what they are clear and simple and now their pranks have turned deadly. This is dangerous and just irresponsible. Absolutely, Im shocked that they didnt. I have to give him props but at least he realized it was going too far. Asthma is scary as hell! In my family we tease each other and play jokes and trust me this is not what we do! On their side it's just righteous indignation. Clearly they were being awful to the fiance prior to the inhaler 'prank'. He wants YOU to drive a wedge between you two and your family but he's too much of an actual "real man" to ask you to make that kind of decision. She's growing as a person and learning how to step up for her new family. Husbands family in the other hand probably won't like the reception. They're fucking nasty and they're doing it on purpose. My dads girlfriend at the time started getting more and more demanding. I can verify that it is nearly impossible for anyone - even real men whatever tf that means - to remove, replace, properly align & balance an entire set of tires without at least a small shop lift. Let her tell dad and let him digest that. It was infuriating and that was just a case of bad luck. They owe the both of you a bit apology but the trust is broken. That's an asthma attack that could turn into a tragedy. Your poor fianc has been suffering. I agree that OP never thought it was okay. He's not too weak to do it, he's too polite and it isn't his place. Lord knows what they will pull on any kids you have. I actually disagree with everyone who says you're not the asshole because you very clearly are. Medical paternalism sucks. Honestly I would elope and not tell them and start getting closer with his family and make distance with your family. This is what I was thinking. I know an 18 year-old who died from asthma. You wouldnt hide someones epipen or insulin. Imagine kids growing in a family where grampa insists on teaching him "hOw tO Be a MaN, beCauSE HiS fatHer iS sOft". Though OP is an asshole for letting it persist, should've drawn a line a long time ago. Thats not an excuse, honestly. Also wtf will they put any potential Male children you might have through as well, under the pretence of helping then man up? NTA. Can he forgive them? I know, right? So my sister isn't invited.". NTA, pranks are all too often used as an excuse to be AH's, let this be a lesson to them that you wont tolerate their BS. Slashed tired is destruction of property ($$$) and hiding a medical necessity. He deserves a medal for that. Organized bullying isn't funny or a prank. I have mild asthma and have never needed a hospital (its either exercise induced, or triggered by my having a cold or something and my immune system deciding that while its doing inflammation anyway why not go into bronchitis for 2 months?). NTA. My dad told me everything about their divorce and how awful my mom was. The only third option is that you stop this dangerous behavior. Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Its not a feeling I would wish on anyone! It's like they're out of It's Always Sunny. This is nauseating. Thats near abuse. These men need help. Honestly, it is astounding that Tim is still with LW. You CHOSE him and said here's the man i love and want to share my life and future with, and this is how they treat that love? Jesus that sounds like a nightmare. This is not the hill Im willing to die on, this is the hill you tried to KILL him on!. This is THE hill to die on. YTA for ever allowing it to happen and if you continue to. If anyone is ever looking for an example, this might as well be it. Send them a video of a grown man having an asthma attack. This is what I thought. What about your future child if you have a boy? Considering that the four closest male relations in her life are all awful people, I think OP's failings are purely because her frame of reference was established at an awful angle by childhood. AITA for telling my (step)dad that his kids are not welcome in my life ever again? Same here. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I would have brought the hammer after the first incident. Not ok. Also this went way too far. Id be long gone by the time they were slashing my tires. A set of new tires will easily run you $600-$800, that is a very expensive prank and I absolutely would have taken them to small claims court over it. Tell Tim that loving you is not a free invitation to be disrespected. NTA, your family is terrible. Being punished isnt going to make them sorry, its going to make them mad. I'd cut out my whole family if they pulled shit like that. My dad said that he didnt know if he would be able to attend because I have not put the past behind us. Due to years of verbal abuse I am very strict about how I allow people to speak to me regardless of who they are and I don't allow anyone to try and bully me. Redditor aitamumuninvited is a 31-year-old man whose mother did not wholly embrace her future daughter-in-law because of something she did. Over a prank? That's a prank. He TOLD ME that hed be taking my car and I should take the train. They are cruel and bordering on criminal behavior. TBH, if I were your fianc, I'd probably end the relationship if you DONT go NC with them, because they're literally dangerous to him. Also, asthma attacks can be deadly. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Yeah, OP said she demanded they stop in response to the earlier incidents too. At this point, I'd be uninviting mom too. They really think that's normal? NTA. When I was little we were best friends. Dont just erase them from your wedding, yeet them from your life. And they certainly already dont like him, considering the names they have already called him. These are NOT pranks. Aaaaaw.. they nearly killed him!!! NTA. My mother tried but my stepdad did not. Tim is a better person than most to endure your shitty family. What respect can you have for the family members pushing you to ignore this violent, aggressive and potentially harmful behavior? When I was 14 my parents got divorced. I suffer asthma and it is not something to joke about. Sounds like you have a choice to make. They are a bunch of nasty men and they have created the wedge with their ridiculous behaviour. This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. 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